I always have and it seems I always will.
Guys complain a lot regarding girls going after the douchebags and dating crappy men that eventually hurt them in the end. And you know, I can't really blame them for feeling that way because let's face it...it happens a lot!
But what about us nice girls that would LOVE for a good guy to come on to us? I can't vouch for every girl out there, but I don't normally get good guys asking me out or showing a romantic interest. Which is sad in the end, because I've grown skeptical towards every guy looking for a date with me. 99% of the time, the guy turns out to be a douchebag looking for a cheap date or a one night stand. Now I just find it hard to believe it when a guy says, "You look beautiful." My initial thought response? "Nice try, keep walking." or "What do you want now?"
The sad part is, I might eventually turn away a good guy in fear he's using me for something because I'll become that mistrusting.
Unlike other girls, I won't give into the douchebags. I can spot one instantly on contact and he better not even try with me. So I remain single and I'm hoping that won't be a permanent thing. Cats can only fulfill so much in ones life! xD I don't want to become lonely...or a crazy cat lady. (I think that part might be too late...)
If you're a nice guy and reading this...and you have given up hope on finding a decent girl that isn't dating a douchebag, please don't. Because us girls are out there and we are looking/hoping you'll come along.
But think like a "douchebag"...he's aggressive, persistent, and won't give up till he gets what he wants. You have to be like that. Women aren't hard to understand. Sure we're different, because of personalities, but think of Edward from Twilight or Thor with Jane Foster. They fight for their woman, they protect her, and they ultimately love her. That's all women want. Not a shining knight, but a lover, supporter, and a friend. We want someone who will listen to us and care enough to make her the center of his world.
The nice guys are the ones who do understand, Ms. PirateSavvy. We're the ones who understand that the relationship isn't about sex and merely being attached. We're the ones who know it's about a strong friendship. One you can count on. One who can support you. One who has open arms and an open ear. To catch you when you fall and to help you get back up when you don't feel like doing so. They're harder to spot because we are the ones that no one suspects. They're the quiet ones that stay in the back... the ones that give you a meek and timid hi... We are the misunderstood... the overlooked... and, more often than not, the ones you already call a friend and right under your nose. They may even already love you. Or, at the very least, feel something very strongly for you... Perhaps it couldn't hurt to explore the other side of the Two-Face coin and maybe seek out your nice guy... or someone you think might be a nice guy. We're out here, Ms. PirateSavvy... we're listening and we're closer than you think. - N
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